When you matter.

"//Self-care is a way to at least strengthen yourself, find some inner core so that you're ready when life comes at you//." - Black McCulloch You are fierce and powerful. I do not know you but this right here, this interaction is to MAKE you understand that you deserve to take space for yourself. It is time. [[Begin]]

Have you been looking after yourself? Do you intentionally listen to what your body is telling you? Do you take the time to get to know yourself enough? [[Yeah, sometimes|I dunno]] [[Not exactly|I dunno]]

Okay. How do you speak to yourself when you mess up? Do you blame yourself harshly for how bad things turned out? Do you speak to yourself out of love and kindness? [[...]]

What would you do when your best friend is having a shitty day? [[Tell them to suck it up and get their act together]] [[Encourage them without judgement. A funny video or two?]]

How about your partner? You'd give them your best listening ear. No? [[Yeaaah]] [[No, not really]]

Would you do that for yourself if you were having the shittest day? [[I get your point.]]

[[I get your point.]]

Bruhhh!! You've really gotta get your shit together. Love yourself a little. Pamper yourself with a cookie. Remember, you cannot give what you do not have. Self care/love eventually ends up in compassion, real love and concern for others. [[Okay]]

Now ask yourself. Are you your favorite person in the world? Take a moment to really think about what your answer is. Think about why you feel that way. [[Okay]]

Now think about what you can do to show a little more attention and affection to yourself. Is it extra minutes in bed? Daily affirmations? Meditation? Self care is meant to make you feel more deeply about yourself. It is a journey that helps us define what works for us and what needs to go. [[Tell me more.]]

If you ever feel a lost connection to who you are, reconnect with yourself. Take as much space as you need. Be [[selfish]]. Before you can be of service to others: showing them love and compassion, you have to love yourself first. Know how to take care of you. To notice when your body is screaming at you to slow down and listen. The greatest gift you can give to those who really need you is for you to be a better you. [[Roger that!]]

Self care/love is seen as selfishness in most cultures or religions. Selflessness has been romanticized. I need you to know and remember that you need space to be you before you can be somebody to anybody. So be selfish. Take care of yourself so you become self-full. Loving yourself might hurt some people and that is okay. [[Roger that!]]

Thank you for taking time to read this. I am currently on a journey of self care and this is just bits and pieces of what I am learning and my opinions too. You should know that it is not an easy journey but it's one worth taking. The load gets lighter when you share it so please share this with others and encourage them to care for themselves because they deserve it. [[Adios.]]

That really wasn't goodbye. If you have any questions, want some resources or just want to say hey. You can reach me on Twitter: <a href= "www.twitter.com/f_aggrey">@f_aggrey</a> Take care of yourself.