Dealing with roommates

It is just a normal day in your apartment, everyone is getting ready for midterms. You realize your roommate has been more quiet than usual. You... [[ignore it and move on]] [[ask her how everything is going]] [[talk to your roommates to see if they know anything you don't]]

You both go on with your day. Later you realize that your roommate has been crying. Do you [[stay in the living room until she stops]] [[go in to check on her]] [[text your other roommates about it]]

She tells you school has just been really overwhelming. She isn't sure what she should major in, and feels like she has been really unsuccesful in dating and establishing a social life, and she isn't sure if she should continue trying with being at college. You [[tell her that all of that sounds really hard, and she should let you know what you can do for her]] [[invite her to go do something with you and your friends tonight]] [[ask her if she has talked to anyone about it on campus, (the academic resource center, CAPS, etc.)]]

The ones who are home don't know anything, but they tell you to talk to the other roommates about it. You [[text your other roommates about it]] [[decide it can wait for a while, and move on with your day]]

Eventually she falls asleep and you go into the room. The next morning she is gone before you wake up. You go about your day and that night, she is crying in your room again. You go to talk to her, and she says she is just really stressed with school, dating, friends, and trying to adjust to BYU. She isn't sure that it is all worth it. You [[tell her that if she prays, it will all work out]] [[tell her that you are stressed too, and share all of your problems]] [[ask her if she has talked to anyone about it on campus, (the academic resource center, CAPS, etc.)]]

She tells you that she is just really stressed between classes, boys, and trying to have a social life. She isn't sure how to handle all of it, and that it has been really hard to find motivation to do anything. You [[ask her if she has talked to anyone about it on campus, (the academic resource center, CAPS, etc.)]] [[contact your RA to talk to them about the problem]]

Your roommates say that they had no idea any of this was happening and ask you to figure out what is going on. You [[ask her how everything is going]] [[call your mom to complain about the fact that your roommate is always crying]]

She keeps being quiet, and is crying a lot more than usual. You usually ignore it, but one night it is really bad. You [[stay in the living room until she stops]] [[go in to check on her]]

You go out that night with her and your friends, but she is really quiet and reserved, still. When you get home that night, she is crying, and you talk to her. She tells you she just still feels lonely, and isn't sure what to do. You... [[ask her if she has talked to anyone about it on campus, (the academic resource center, CAPS, etc.)]] [[decide it can wait for a while, and move on with your day]] [[contact your RA to talk to them about the problem]]

She said she hasn't but that it might be a good idea. You remember your RA can help with those kinds of things. You [[contact your RA to talk to them about the problem]]

She goes on with everything, and she continues being quiet and crying a lot. You eventually realize that you can't fix this problen for her. You [[contact your RA to talk to them about the problem]] [[call your mom to complain about the fact that your roommate is always crying]]

She listens, and then you both go about the rest of your day. She starts crying again that night, and the next morning she is gone again. You... [[contact your RA to talk to them about the problem]] [[call your mom to complain about the fact that your roommate is always crying]] [[decide you need to talk to her when she gets home]]

Your RA sits down with your roommate and talks to her about what is going on. She is able to help your roommate find the help she needs, and you are both able to have a great rest of the semester!

Your mom tells you that you should really talk to your roommate about this, so you decide you should just do that. You [[decide you need to talk to her when she gets home]]

You tell her you have noticed she has been crying at night, and are really worried about her. She tells you not to worry, that it is just stress. You ask what she is doing to manage her stress, and she tells you that she is fine, and that it will all be okay. You... [[accept it and move on]] [[ask her if she has talked to anyone about it on campus, (the academic resource center, CAPS, etc.)]] [[Tell her you are willing to help her study, or that she can come out with you and your friends to burn off stress.]]

After a few days of her crying, you find razors in the bathroom, and realize she is always wearing long sleeves in the winter, and are very concerned about her. You... [[contact your RA to talk to them about what you're worried about]] [[decide you're just overreacting.]]

She says that would be fun. You [[invite her to go do something with you and your friends tonight]]

Your RA sits down with your roommate and talks to her about what is going on. She is able to help your roommate find the help she needs, and you are both able to have a great rest of the semester!

A few days later you catch your roommate crying and starting to self harm you... [[contact your RA to talk to them about the problem]]

When you see her again, you can tell she has been crying, and know you need to talk to her about it. You find out she is really stressed about classes, boys, and trying to have a social life. You... [[tell her that if she prays, it will all work out]] [[tell her that you are stressed too, and share all of your problems]] [[ask her if she has talked to anyone about it on campus, (the academic resource center, CAPS, etc.)]]